【Beyond Small Talk】How to Make Real Friends in Japan

Japan is an amazing country, but for many foreigners, it can also be a lonely place.

Making deep, meaningful friendships can be a challenge due to cultural and language barriers.

But it’s far from impossible!.

This guide provides practical apps, places, and tips to help you move beyond surface-level small talk and build real connections.

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In a tech-savvy country like Japan, apps are a great starting point.

Meetup: This is one of the best apps for finding groups based on your hobbies and interests. Whether you like hiking, board games, coding, or art, there’s likely a group for you. Many have both Japanese and foreign members.
Bumble BFF: While known as a dating app, Bumble has a “BFF” mode specifically for finding friends. It’s popular in major cities and great for one-on-one connections.
Language Exchange Apps (e.g., HelloTalk): These apps connect you with Japanese people who want to learn your language, and vice-versa. It’s a natural way to start a conversation that can lead to a real-world friendship.

Getting out there is key.

Here are some places where making connections is natural.

International Centers (国際交流センター): Most cities have an international center that hosts events, classes, and gatherings specifically for cultural exchange. They are incredibly welcoming to foreigners.
Hobby Circles or Classes (サークル/習い事): Join a class for something you’re interested in, like pottery, calligraphy, or a martial art. Sharing a common passion is a powerful way to bond.
Local Bars and Izakayas: Especially smaller, “local” spots. If you become a regular, you’ll naturally get to know the staff and other patrons. Our guide to Izakayas can help you feel more comfortable.

Building friendships in Japan can be a slower process.

Here are a few tips:

Be Patient: Japanese people can be more reserved at first. Don’t be discouraged if friendships don’t happen overnight. Consistency is key.
Group Mentality: Friendships often form in groups. Being invited to a group activity is a very positive sign.
Exchanging Gifts (Omiyage): Small gifts, especially after a trip, are a common and appreciated gesture among friends.

Once you’ve made some new connections, a great way to strengthen your bond is by sharing an experience.

Joining a fun local activity, like a cooking class or a day tour to a nearby attraction, can create lasting memories.

If you’re looking for a romantic connection in addition to friendships, the world of dating apps in Japan has its own unique landscape.

Learn how to navigate it here.

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